family

The role of mother and wife

My family

Having a family is not only my most important value, but also my greatest achievement. I create it together with my husband, Piotr, and our children Sonam, Zuzia, Kandżu and Franek.

But hey, our family is not that ordinary! Sonam and Kandżu came to us straight from Tibet, which adds a pinch of Himalayan magic to our everyday life.

How did it happen that two extraordinary Tibetan girls ended up in our family?

How did it happen that two extraordinary Tibetan girls ended up in our family?

Having already had two children from my first marriage, 12-year-old Zuzia and 4-year-old Fanek, my second husband Piotr and I first decided to take care of Chime, a girl from Tibet. Her story is amazing, as an 11-year-old she left her family home and escaped through the Himalayas to India, where she went to school.

She was expelled from the school because she did not study well. For a little girl from Tibet, there are only two options in this situation - to become a prostitute or... a seamstress. Here another problem arose - Chime could not sew.

With help came her uncle the monk Ajama and the Sam Jub Ling Foundation, who decided to bring her to Poland at the invitation of the Bednarska School Complex in Warsaw. Our country already had her cousin Sonam, who had come in the same way only earlier.

We met Chime on 2 May 2008 at Plac Unii Lubelskiej in Warsaw. The next meeting was already at our home, where it turned out that we were looking for a home not only for the then eighteen-year-old Chime, but also for two years younger Londroma and fourteen-year-old Sonam.

The girls had already spent time in Poland, so they spoke little Polish. Chime spoke only Tibetan, little Chinese, not to mention English.

Sonam-Skopiec
The holidays were beginning, during which we decided to take care of the girls. The girls gradually started to get along with more family members - starting with my dad. It didn't take long for us to understand that the girls should stick together. We started with the youngest one.

In September 2008, Sonam came to live in a room with our Zuzia. It was not easy for us. We knew we lacked experience, we acted intuitively. We had no documents and one question kept boiling in our heads - what next?
Fiedler-Zuzanna
We were given the idea of going to Tibet, where we were to meet Sonam's parents. We didn't need to be told twice. Without thinking much, the three of us went to Tibet. Along with our visas and our willingness to take custody, we took with us pictures of Sonam and Zuzia, a whole backpack of toys, Sonam's letter to her parents and my grandmother's ring, which we wanted to give to Sonam's mother, as well as a deed drawn up before we left in which her dad entrusts us with his child. After getting the documents for Sonam, our new life with three children began.
Kasia-Skopiec-z-mezem
The idyll was interrupted by the death of Sonam's cancer-stricken mother. It was then that the thought of adopting Kandżu, Sonam's younger sister, germinated in us. Our financial situation at the time, did not allow us to take this step. Fortunately, we had our wonderful friends who helped us realise the journey for Kanżdu by paying for her ticket to Poland. It wasn't easy, I didn't fall in love with her right away either, but it didn't take long for this situation to change.

And so we began another chapter of our journey together. The most beautiful one I could have imagined.

Both girls exemplify extraordinary determination. Sonam, who came to Poland as a 12-year-old illiterate girl, is now a doctor. Kandżu, having overcome cancer, has built up such strength that she is now studying dentistry and working at the same time.

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